Titus 2: 3-5 has two parts. One; older women must be taught how to be "reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine and to teach what is good." Two; younger women must be taught how to "love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands."For me, in this "middle stage" of life, these two parts are interchangeable. In either stage we "must be taught."
Now I know that it is important for us, as older mothers (that could be age or spiritual maturity) to "teach the younger women." Who can we look for to mentor/teach/encourage/disciple? But Titus 2 says, yes; the older women also "must be taught". Who is going to teach the older women? Who is supposed to teach the older women?
Because (in my opinion) there is a lack of discipleship/mentoring in the church, and a lack of teaching others how to disciple, we must, as "older women" look for those mentors. Seek them out, ask them. It could be something as simple as talking to an older woman and asking her about her marriage, her relationship with the Lord. We all have something to learn from each other.
So, there is a twofold responsibility in these verses. To the older, and to the younger.
Breaking it down I see that as a woman--whether it be older or younger (again, this is not necessarily age but also spiritual maturity)-- I need to be seeking out how to be:
- reverent in the way I live
- not to be a slanderer. Slanderer: (defame, malign, vilify, degrade, disparage, shame, disgrace. Doesn't it take a lot of heart work for us women not to be a slanderer?)
- not to be addicted to much wine (or facebook or my phone--ouch)
- teach what is good
- love my husband
- love my children
- to be self-controlled (goes along well with "not be addicted")
- to be pure
- to be busy at home
- to be kind
- to be subject to my husband
What stands out to me most at this time is the "self-control" part. It takes a lot of heart work to be self-controlled. Part of the way I feel I can be self-controlled (aside from the most important part which is surrendering every day to the Holy Spirit in my life) is by asking myself "What is edifying?"
Is this good for me? How will this fill me? How will this change and affect me? Again, lots of heart work to figure all this out.
In the coming week or so I want to explore that question more: "what is edifying?"
It would be great to hear comments/thoughts/questions from everyone.
Stay with me....